Do you want to Improve your relationships?
According to the International Coaching Federation, using the right life coach can improve your relationships by up to 73%.
Ok- 73% seems like an odd number and it may seem odd to out a percentage to the quality of relationships; however, this number was the result of independent research by Price Waterhouse Coopers.
Which relationships you ask?
Not just your intimate relationship with your partner, but all relationships you have with other people – work relationships, family relationships, friendships, and any relationships you have with others. Also, the most important relationship of all – the relationship you have with yourself.
The relationship you have with yourself will determine how successful your relationship is with others.
If you don’t love yourself, then you will look to others to fill that void within you. You will look to a partner to make you feel loved, wanted – and needed and you will therefore become “needy”- You will become insecure and jealous in the relationship because you are afraid of your partner leaving you and this will only drive your partner.
Our habits dictate our relationships
There is a common state of being called “ordinary unconsciousness” where we are unconscious of our habits and why we feel uneasy or unhappy about something. If you are at a point in your life where you realise you want something:
- more happiness
- better relationships
- a change in your life
- less stress
- to communicate better
- to understand others
- to understand yourself
- to have peace
- to stop making the same mistakes in relationships
then congratulations. You are at the first step- self-awareness.
“We cannot change what we are not aware of.” – Sheryl Sandberg
Why get a life coach?
I have always had a coach or mentor of some description in many different areas of my life including when I was doing competitive sports, improving my fitness, in my business, and in my life. It just seemed like the natural thing to do- if I wanted to do something I hadn’t done before, I needed to find someone who had done what I was trying to do and learn from him or her.
For many of you reading this, it will be a foreign thing for you to get a life coach; however, there is no denying the statistics from independent research showing that using a life coach can improve every area of your life.
Most of us want to improve at least one area of our life, however, many don’t know where to start.
A life coach actually will help you look at your relationships, and your life, from a different perspective. They are like a fresh pair of eyes looking at your problem and helping you to see where you can make changes. A life coach will help you identify the habits that aren’t serving you and form new ones based on your new level of self-awareness and consciousness.
Ways to improving your relationships
By changing ourselves it automatically changes the relationship you have with others. It’s like a ripple effect. So, by becoming more self-aware this brings to your attention the areas you need to change. The ways you can start doing that are:
- Research life coaches and interview them to see which one you resonate with– which one feels right for you. They don’t have to be in your immediate geographic area as technology helps you to find one anywhere in the world. Think of the money you pay as an investment in your future- not a cost. What is your happiness worth to you?
- Start working on you– this is where it all starts. When you become more self-aware of your habits around relationships, this will make it easier to change. Download my free e-book on self- awareness- the 1st step to happiness and abundance at http://superwomanvsrealwoman.com
- Make a list of all the positive things about your relationships- because what you focus on expands. Most of us unconsciously focus on the negatives of a relationship, or what’s going wrong, and of course that will bring about more of what you don’t want. Focus on the positives and what you do want and that will automatically start to retrain your brain to look for the positives.
There is a book that I highly recommend called “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. (No I don’t get any kickbacks for recommending this book) This book, along with many others I have read, have been invaluable in understanding first of all myself and what I respond to that makes me feel loved, wanted, and needed from my partner, and then what my partner needs to make them feel loved, wanted and needed. This helps you to understand the mistakes you make in a relationship when you speak a different love language.
This all comes back to being more self-aware and understanding yourself and others. When you are more aware of these things you have more control over your life and your relationships. You are not floundering around like a lost puppy dog wondering how to handle different situations, especially conflict situations. You understand more about what is happening and why.
Having access to a coach that will not only help you to understand yourself, but give you resources that can help you long after the coach is gone, is priceless. It short cuts the issues you are having and the learning process.
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